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Anonymous |
11/12/06 |
A friend of mine works as an associate minister at a church. She loves her job and the church community thinks the world of her. There's just one little problem: her boss, the head pastor, is sexually harrassing her. In the most obvious incident, he told her that he was writing her job evaluation and then proceeded to coerce her into allowing him to sodomize her at his home. Now she doesn't know what to do: despite her hurt and fear, she likes her boss as a person and doesn't want to see his reputation ruined. She also likes his wife and doesn't want to lose her friendship. Furthermore, if it ever came to light, her reputation would suffer just as much damage as his, if not more. However, if she does nothing, there is a good chance that it will keep happening, and that she will lose her job (which would be a serious financial hardship for her) if she refuses to comply.
My question is this: how can my friend best protect herself, her reputation, and her job, in this situation?
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Clarification/Follow-up by CeeBee2 on 11/13/06 12:43 pm:
JM - The official body she reports to may have other accusations already on file. I don't think she should start her own witch hunt by searching for others who may have been abused in some way by the pastor, since there is a possibility she is the first one he's done this to or others won't come forward OR others will come forward with false accusations because they have an ax to grind.
I still think she should file her accusation with the correct official(s). They (I hope) will know how to handle it. It's too bad time has gone by with no medical intervention. This unfortunately could become a "he said-she said" situation with everyone losing.
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