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stiamo_bene_insieme |
05/03/05 |
Hi
I have a problem and I hope there is someone here who can help me.
The problem is that I am scared of my friend. We have known each other since kindergarten. It all began when I told him that and he is confused and doesn' get me.
We live distant from each other and when I moved away, I tried to keep in touch with him by writing him letters. I have been writing letters for almost 8 years and he never wrote to him until last year when he sent me an email.
I don' know why I am scared of him. Sometimes, I think that I am all over him, sending birthday cards, phone him, etc... and he never did that to me. I don' think that he even knows my birthday. Then, all of a sudden I felt "" ( I don' know if I am using the right word, maybe it' anxiety?) because when I wanted to talk to him, I couldn' do it and my heart pounded so hard and my fingers cannot dial the number.
When I get a letter from him, I know that I am suppose to be happy and excited but I am not and I am scared of reading them. Usually I wait hours or days before I can read it. I am not suppose to feel this way, instead I should feel at ease. Is there something wrong with me? I have tried to understand this situation and this is the way I look at this issue. Because I feel scared of what he says in a letter or when I call him, it feels not right. Like I said before, I should not feel this way and be at ease with him but I can' do that. In a relationship whether it' a friendship or between a couple, I think that the indication of being "",it' a red flag. Like it' suppose to tell you something that it' not going right. Am I the only one to feel this way? I have tried this to him and he doesn' understand me.
Could you please help me?
Stiamo Bene Insieme |
Clarification/Follow-up by Schoolmarm on 05/09/05 8:05 am:
I understand the problem. Yes, there are many people who are able to keep in touch with childhood friends, but those people do not have strong feelings of romantic love towards those friends. It's that feeling that you harbor that is making it uncomfortable for you to maintain the friendship. I'll bet your friend suspects how you feel and is also uncomfortable with it. He does not want to lead you into believing that there is more to your relationship than simple friendship. You may have overwhelmed him with your cards and letters. I honestly believe that you should leave him alone for a while and wait for him to get in touch with you on his own.
Good luck!
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