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| cat complex catastophey |
tshamm |
11/07/05 |
i try to be a moral person, i dont lie or cheet, and i think in this situation i did what was moral. so my question is if u think i did. i have a boyfriend of two years he lives with me and i really saw my future with him, he had wonderful parents and overall we had a great realtionship. but about a month ago a stray cat wondered into my house and stayed for 3 days. it was a kitten not fixed and had no collar. i was about 85% sure it was a stray, so i guess there was doubt in my mind. but my boyfriend wanted to give the cat to his parents, and we asked everyone in the naborhood who the cat belonged to no one knew everyone had been feeding it and thouht it was a stray. i said we should put up some signs just in case, but next thing i knew his parents had picked up the cat, and i guess i thout it was over and dindn't put up the signs anyway. meanwile he parents called the SPCA and the newspaper to see if the cat had been reported. they didnt find anything so they got it fixed and its shots done. about 15 days later i saw a poster for the cat in the naborhood and i took it to them. His mom said they weren't going to give it back and not to tell his dad, i did anyway and his dad said that he knew it was wrong but they had done all this for it and it had a good home and they were going to keep it (he now says he didnt say that but im sure he did). so he called the people and told them there cat was alive and well and that they found it and were going to keep it, but that it would have a good life. I knew it was wrong but i was selfish and didnt want them to hate me, so i didnt say anything. I thought it would blow over, but someone in my naborhood found out that me and my boyfriend had given up the cat to someone else. the origional owner came over to talk. However on his parents advise he wouldent talk with her and our naibor friend. Not that they were being nice they called him a nazi, but anyway i called his dad and talked to him for a long time about the situation, they said not to say anything, that it would blow over, but i said they shold just call the person and talk to her themselves insted of having her coming over. I sid i didnt know who had more right to the cat and that i just didnt want to have to deal with this, or let it come between me and my boyfriend. And my boyfriend asked if they would just give it back they said no they wouldnt give it back. furthmore, They said if they talked to her it would just get worse. i talked to my boyfried about it for about half an hour then the owner left a note that said if they didn't have the cat by 4 they were going to call the police. I couldn't deal with this. It was ging worse. his dad talked to me about how i didnt leagaly have to talk to the cop and could refuse to let him in. I said i didnt think i could morally keep the information from the officer. I mean if my boyfriends parents were right why did it matter if the cop knows who they are. I told my boyfriend i needed eather him or me to go over to the house and tell the girl their number so that they could work it out themselvs. I went over and told. I gave the number because i thought if a give the person the benifit of the doubt on why they wern't taking care of their cat, maybe it escaped, they didnt have the money, well i thought up a lot of sanareos. I thought the person had a right to plead for their cat and legal action if they choes. I also didnt think lying to the poilce or even taking the fith was the right thing to do. And i thought it was horrible for his parents to ask us to do that over a cat they considered theirs, they should take responsibility. also i live in a dangerous naborhood and didnt want the cops to think i was a cat napper and give no headence to me when a call them twice a month(because something iligal is going on behid my house). I also said i would not want the whole block or that nabior that yelled at me to think i had kidnaped the cat. I fet that it would jeperdize the work i was doing in the naborhood on trying to get a park put in. not to mention hurt my relationship with my boyfriend. so i went to the girls house and their was an excuse for why the cat had been out, un fixed ect. She had moved from russa 2 months ago and in russia people dont worry about there cats as much. I mean they ley them out dont fix them and dont register them. She seemed truley heartbroken over the loss, she said she had droped out of school because she had brought the kitten from russa and he was not replaceable. the had pictures and video of him. so i gave her my boyfriends parents number and said i thought they should talk. my boyfriend was angry but not that angry, he said h wished his parenst would have give bak the cat and spared this feasco. I told him to call his parents and tell them what happend. they were livid said i was a communist and i had sold out my friends and family for myself. they said they were glad this happed so they knew my loility didnt lie with them. they said a lot more but thats the gist. i told them they needind to take responsibility for the cat they wanted and shoulden't envolve me or my boyfriend and it was selfish of them to do so.they have done so much for me they took care of my cat when my boyfriend and i were in europe, they helped me when my car broke, and many other things. my boyfriend and i broke up and i cant belive it was over this stupid cat. i felt i had to do what i felt was right regardless of what they had done for me. i couldnt lie to the police or say nothing when they asked. do u think i did the right thing? the moral thing? should u be loil to people you consider mostly good when they are doing something u think is wrong and endangers your situation/relationship/view of youself?
ps the police never showed up but they were called, and i felt that they would come, so i acted as if they would.
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