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| ended a 20 yr friendship= conflict of interest to write to his mother |
Anonymous |
08/11/05 |
Hi
In the last couple of months I have decided to end a 20 year friendship with my childhood friend.
The short story is that we have been friends for almost 20 years. When I left Italy I practically moved to another continent.I have been away from my home for nearly ten years and in this ten years I haven' had the chance to go back yet.
I have kept in touch with most of my friends in Italy including my childhood friend.
I wrote him often, sent him birthday cards, etc...but for nearly 8 years he never wrote to him, well, maybe at least twice in the span of the 8 years. Suddenly, he writes to me and I have been happy about that but recently I have been asking myself " he writes to me because he HAS to or because he wants to ( voluntarily)" and not to mentioned, I have began having some sort of feelings or him that I wanted to tell him about but then decided not to.
All of this made me scared, I wasn' at ease with him at all- I was uncomfortable with the situation.
I tried to explain things some of this things to him and he didn' understood me, he even blackmailed our friendship into telling him things ( even though i told him this things in a vague way but later i told him the whole situation in fully except that I was feeling something for him).
Anyway,I have decided to end this friendship even though he was reliant to do so.
In the letter that I received he seemed like he wanted to work out things, at lest change my mind about it and since then I haven' heard from him. It' been already 3 months. Sometimes I think that he didn' write to me because I would of wanted to go this way anyway or simply he doesn' care about me at all.
I would like to know if it is a conflict of interest if I wrote to her mother (she lives in italy), not because I would be in a way still connected to this friend but to explain to her that she shouldn' be upset with me of the decision I have made to end my friendship with her son and that I haven' stopped thinking of him and that I still care for him very much. I don' want that when I go to Italy, she is ticked off at me because I still care about my friend very much.
I would like this letter to be a heart to heart between me and her.
Please let me know what you think.
Thanks
unhappy girl |
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