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My son the pot head!	Anonymous	02/15/05
I just recently found out that my son has been smoking pot and drinking for awhile now. He freely admits it like he's proud of it. The problem is he is 18 now and thinks he rules the world. I might not have so much of a problem with it if he didn't use it as a "parent irritant" and could find a job. He can't because he can't pass a drug screen. Tonight, after much deliberation and debate with him, I had had my fill and I gave him a choice... either abide by MY rules or get out of MY house. Now, all of a sudden, I am the bad guy with my whole family. I am almost ready to pack MY things and give them all the whole S&S. See, this was thrust on me, by the rest of the family, to "DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT" and "GET IT STOPPED" because "WE HAVE YOUNGER KIDS IN THE HOUSE". I agree it needs to stop and I did what I thought was the only thing I could do after he responded to none of my other solutions. No one else seems to think they are a part of it. It's my problem to handle! (and I don't drink or smoke pot, so he sure didn't learn it from me!) I'm serious folks, I am about 5 minutes from going for a pack of smokes and not coming back. Any Ideas?
Clarification/Follow-up by tarot10 on 02/15/05 4:25 pm: If you don't take some action against your son, the police will. They will take everything you own. If you're son won't leave willingly, then call the cops yourself to get him away from your property. Don't let him back in without checking him first to make sure he doesn't bring anything back into your home. Change the locks on the house and lock your windows. Clarification/Follow-up by excon on 02/16/05 12:16 am: Hello: NO, don't call the cops! Let me say that again. NO! Please don't call the cops!! excon Clarification/Follow-up by tomder55 on 02/16/05 2:42 am: darkstar. I made an error in my rating. A national drinking age went into effect in 1984 ;but I was unaware that States had the option of not following it (at the risk of losing Federal Highway Aid ).N.Y. went along with the Feds but apparently other States did not . Clarification/Follow-up by tomder55 on 02/16/05 2:49 am: tarot ; the assumption being that you want to help your child ....how would a permanent record help ? Clarification/Follow-up by Choux on 02/16/05 6:55 am: Isn't this his FATHER??? He is the kid's role model on how to be a MAN. Clarification/Follow-up by tarot10 on 02/16/05 8:39 am: If your son has any enemies who know he has pot in his possession, they will call the police. So you need to do whatever necessary to protect your property and the rest of your family members. There is absolutely nothing wrong with calling the cops, etc if your son won't leave on his own. Is this going to turn into a pattern of breaking the law? Clarification/Follow-up by tarot10 on 02/16/05 8:43 am: would you rather that your possessions get taken away and you and your family end up in jail or would you rather that your son take the full responsibility even if that means a permanent record? It's your son who is making the choice of getting a permanent record no one else's. Are you willing to take the blame along with the rest of your family members? Clarification/Follow-up by tarot10 on 02/16/05 9:14 am: tomder many years ago one of my siblings had a habit of breaking traffic laws until one day the cops caught up with him and threw him in jail. He never again broke the law.

Summary of Answers Received	Answered On	Answered By	Average Rating
1. Firstly, have you heard of "Tough Love" support groups...	02/15/05	Choux
2. Hello: I fully understand. In today's society of the you...	02/15/05	bal317
3. Hello Anonymous, You are faced with a tough situation. It ...	02/15/05	powderpuff
4. hi, this is of course a very difficult thing to deal with....	02/15/05	darkstar
5. Hello, maybe I can help: He's 18 and making adult choic...	02/16/05	excon
6. Two things really, first, you do not want drugs in your hous...	02/16/05	Bishop_Chuck
7. Author: darkstar Date: 02-16-05 14:55 I would like to re...	02/16/05	darkstar

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