Clarification/Follow-up by twelfth_imam on 09/19/06 9:03 pm:
Jim is right. It is your insecurity. It is ciommon and understandable. the question is, are you big enough to live with it? he was married to her, he kloved her, they have kinds, so they are still involved in parenting together (I hope!), and your role is to let him do what he has to do to be a good parent, and let him be with you what he is with you at the same time. Do not let your jealousies spoil a good thing, if that is what it is.

It takes a special person to be second wife or husband, and ean even more amazing person to be a laid back step parent.