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Are medium's a good idea?	Anonymous	07/03/03
Lost my soul mate / best friend tragically a year and a half ago. I am, "getting on with it", but greiving never ends, does it? I was wondering if it's a good idea to maybe go to a medium. I dunno if they're real.. though I would love to believe it, I also don't want my deepest emotions being toyed with. Any suggestions?
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queenofwands		07/04/03
Dear One, I’m very sorry for your loss. However, I don’t think it will do you any good to contact a medium. Nor will it do any good to the one you love who has already passed over. First, very few mediums are authentic and there’s no way you can really tell. You will put yourself at a very great risk. At this point, I will repeat to you what I’ve said to another expert on the psychic board who asked me about mediums. I have lots of experience with the spirit world and have performed the ritual known as “elevation of spirits” for stranded souls, as part of my healing practice with a Church-accredited group. But I did not go into mediumship because of the inherent dangers involved. Many mediums are quacks. And a lot of those who “practice” the “real thing” don’t even know enough to “safeguard” themselves and the people around them (even within that so-called “Ring of Light”) – assistants and querents alike, from any “gate-crashing” entities – not just demons, but restless, angry, hungry or stranded entities in the astral plane. Summoning spirits is especially dangerous in the trance state because the medium “opens” up and willingly “admits” the entities into the self. (The other people around the medium also “consents” indirectly and opens up via their participation in the seance.) In this state, spirit “possession” can very easily take place. The medium, while he/she is supposed to have friendly spirit allies, angels or guides who act as protectors throughout the session, willingly “consents” to be “used” by the entities “called” as a channel. This is real “possession”. That’s all there is to it. And the situation can get out of control anytime, for everyone present, not just for the medium. Trust me, I’ve seen possession cases as well. They’re not a pretty sight. I don’t know if you’re aware that the possession case depicted in the movie “The Exorcist” was based on a true story of a boy who was “possessed” while playing with the spirit of the glass. And that’s supposed to be just an innocent child’s game. So you should be able to imagine what it's like if a full-blown séance gets out of control. Second and most important of all, your beloved has passed over. I understand that you need to be comforted. Perhaps you think it will ease your sorrow if you can know his thoughts about his death, his untimely parting from you. Perhaps you feel you should have told him how much you loved him and you want to be assured now, in your grief, that he loves you still and that he does not hold you accountable for not having prevented the tragedy. Perhaps you still have unacknowledged guilt feelings – thinking all sorts of “what ifs” – where you could have prevented his death from happening or gone after the people who have something to do with his tragedy. But you have to know that the issue of what you feel to be his “unfinished business” in this world no longer matters – to him. When a person dies, he leaves behind his physical body and all its concerns on this earth plane. You should allow the soul of your beloved to be free to move on to the next stage of his development. Earthly issues are no longer important to him because he has lost his material self and can never come back to it. If you attempt to “call him back” to his tragic end here on the earth plane by contacting his spirit, you are only obstructing his journey, delaying his return to the Light. If you really love him, you will do him the greatest favor if you just let him go. And you yourself shall be free. I’m aware that your grief is still fresh. It may take you many years to forget. But time is the greatest healer of all wounds. Just be patient. Blessings, JV

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