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Wise suggestions for women.	Anonymous	10/15/03
If someone approaches you in an agressive manner, if they have not actually touched you at that moment, DO NOT push them away.. You will be considered the aggresser by the police, even if in turn you get punched in the face and hit by a car for it. If you are standing in a driveway and someone backs into you with their vehicle and takes off, it is not considered hit and run, as you had no business being behind the car and getting hit, even if it happened so fast you didn't react and get out of the way quick enough.. It is your fault. You were on their private property. It is not considered hit and run. Do not go to your ex husbands house to collect child support, even if invited. It is called tresspassing according to the police. And don't yell back if someone is yelling at you.. It is an act of agression, and you will have screwed yourself.. Just some words to the wise for all those women out there who are told not to put up with abuse, and to report it. Don't waste your time or emotional energy on it. It will turn around and bite you in the butt. Stay silent and live with it if you have made ANY kind of motion that the police consider agression. You are the culprit, and not the victim. You have invited what has happened to you because of your actions. You are right ethical_reason. Our daughter was guilty of something. Even the police officer agrees with you on that.
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ethical_reason		10/15/03
You have a right to be angry, that much is obvious... I Understand! NOW You have the choice to continue being angry or stop having bitterness and think either tactically or lovingly. Either of those may get you what you want, but a confrontation or a fight for her rights (which you have a case for regardless of what the seemingly chauvinist police said) will require either loving and calm words or tactical and well thought out words. Anger will only bring a fight in return. Your advice is good in spite of the sarcasm. Try to be a force in this event, not just getting carried away, thrown against the rocks of indifference and stupidity.

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